Whole week I was too bothered about the banquet issues that I had almost forgotten that I actually have some stuffs that I am overjoyed with. My gowns. I love my gowns. I went to Bliss on the same day as the day I went for food tasting at PHO. Food tasting in the evening, and Bliss appointment was in the afternoon. Nel accompanied me to Bliss. Out of most of the friends, she is like most concerned with my wedding. She actually took leave to accompany me for my gown trials. Sad thing is that cannot confirm if she can take leave on my actual day, nor can confirm if she can be part of the jiemei entourage. Sure will be very fun with her ard.
I had confirmed my wedding gown (WG) during my previous fitting, and evening gown (EG) in the previous previous fitting. Gorgeous is the word to describe the WG. Wahaha... So when I went down on Tuesday with Mummy and Nel, my main purpose was to select my outdoor gown and also to take our measurements (Darling's MTM pants and my vital stats for amendments to be made to the gown). And I wanted to show my Mummy the WG and EG that we had selected.
Outdoor gowns were very disappointing. Nothing to my fancy at all. Shall select on my next appointment which is the final fitting already. Hopefully there are some pretty gowns available for selection then.
Wedding gown, as usual, fabulous. It has the 'wow' factor. I am really happy with the WG.
My co-ordinator Jenny asked if I dare to try a more outrageous colour for my EG. I told her that it was the colour that I had in mind coz I had a colour theme in mind already. So Jenny took another EG and the moment I saw it, I was like "Wow! This is the gown!" Fitted me almost perfectly, and the colour suits me damn well. Wahaha... When I stepped out of the fitting room, Nel, Mummy and Darling were like "very nice, take this!" I also had the same notion, but anyway I tried on the previous EG (which is dark blue btw) just to show them and let them make the comparision. Both Mummy and Nel had not seen the blue EG before, only Darling and I were present when we confirmed the EG. No 'wow' factor when I wore the blue EG. Haha.. And so I forsake the blue EG that I had previously chosen and settled for my new EG. Super duper delighted with the new EG.
Darling and I still have yet to confirm what outfits we wanna take for our photoshoot which is like 3 weeks away. WG (2 different hairdos), EG, outdoor gown, Kua. We still have one more. We dowan to take those Victorian or Japanese or Korean style photos. I wanna take others leh. Maybe take a short gown for photo shoot! Keke.. Shall decide on my next appointment which is next week.
Yet to confirm also is the venue to take our outdoor photoshoot. I only know that I wanna go to Botanical Gardens coz there is a dilapidated house there which I like very much (from the photos of other BTBs).
To Do List
1) Outdoor photoshoot locations
2) Call up JP for solemnization
3) Register with ROM
4) Jiemei and Xiongdi's wrist & pin corsages
5) Print wedding invites
Had our hotel food tasting on Tuesday (09 September) at Park Hotel Orchard (PHO). Family members present from Darling's side - Grandpa, Mother, little brother (Yong) and girlfriend (Edon). Family members present from my side - Daddy, Mummy, eldest brother-in-law (Richard) and eldest sister (Kuan). Generally the food is not bad, and portions very big. Everyone had at least 2 servings of the sharks fin soup andRichard had 3! And there was still leftover! And we were promised they were the actual serving size for our wedding banquet. Hopefully lo.. Hehe...
Anyway the package we took up initially is a 8 course dinner, with no prawns and abalone. Most expensive dish is the sea cucumber and sharks fin I suppose. Grandpa was like questioning why there's no prawns, no abalone. Hold in a hotel and pay so much money and there's no prawns, no abalone! Darling had checked with Park Hotel before, that if we were to change the sea cucumber to abalone, we will need to top up $50 per table. Then in this case, we might as well upgrade to the 9 course dinner. That night we checked with the chef who came to meet us personally after the tasting, if we change to prawns, per table we will need to top up about $20 at least.
There was a dish of 'Lao Bai Choy' with wolfberry in superior stock. That dish did not look very appetising, but it tasted very good. The wolfberry is very sweet, the stock is delicious, and there were lotsa dried scallop on it. One spoonful of the vege with the wolfberry, scallop and the soup all in your mouth in one go, crunchy and sweet. Sad thing was it din look very nice. Some of them asked us to top it up to abalone! Wa lau eh.. I give you $1 of vege, you give me $5 of fish ok?
After the whole event, I felt extremely upset and disappointed. Only my mummy was truly concerned about us. She was the only one who told me not to change anything coz she was worried that we will not be able to cope financially.
Darling and I are paying for every single thing on our own, we are not getting any help from anyone, financially, emotionally or physically. In our point of view, this is OUR wedding, we planned for this and we want and will cope with this ourselves. It's not like suddenly out of the blue we announce that we want to get married, and we need or expect everyone to help us out financially. This wedding is going to wipe out ALL our savings, we gonna start from zero after this. But we're happy to spend this money coz we have been saving for our big day, that is what the pool of money is for. Even though Mummy had the intention of paying for our side of relatives' and friends' tables, and will not 'eat' any tables from Darling, after some thoughts, Darling and I decided to bear it all, we shall pay for all the tables. Profits or losses Darling and I will shoulder them all.
On the journey home, I thought about the whole dinner and decided that we should just upgrade the package to 9 course dinner instead of the 8 course dinner. 9 course dinner includes prawn, abalone and sea cucumber. 8 course only has the sea cucumber. Difference of less than $100 is ok la. After dropping Grandpa and Darling's mother off at Marine parade, I talked to Darling about it, we will just upgrade to the 9 course dinner, to make Grandpa happy.
I am just super upset that all these people only have mouths to talk and comment, but no help offered from them. Even though I am very upset that these people only care about their face and never spare a thought for both of us, but I do not wish to this event to turn into an unhappy occassion and I feel that I am trying so hard to please everyone, I have to take everyone's feelings and comments into consideration, when it is OUR wedding, not theirs. Never mind, it's all right, throwing a banquet is to make the old folks happy, so upgrading the dishes is fine for me. Maybe not having the food tasting session would have been better.
When Alice from PHO called us to remind us about the food tasting, Darling and I decided we will ask Kuan and Richard to go. Coz I respect that Kuan is my eldest sister. Period. I made arrangements with her and Richard, both were more than willing to go and were very happy that I respect them as my eldest sister and bro-in-law, and even though the arrangements would inconvenience them, their 3 kids, my littlest sister, they still steadily agreed. After having their confirmation, I talked to my parents about it.
1) Daddy was unhappy that I asked Kuan to go and never ask Vicky to go.There are only 10 seats, so what does he expect? That the whole table consists of my family members? That aside, then what about Chun? If I ask both Kuan and Vicky to go, its not fair that my littlest sister does not attend.
2) He suggested to add extra seat or add extra table so that they can go. Sure, add extra table, who is going to pay for the table?
3) Mummy said we should have just asked Chun and Alvan to go instead of Kuan and Richard to save all the hassle. This thought did come across my mind, but why should I let the 3rd generation attend? This is a formal session, I cannot afford to have Alvan throwing temper or showing any signs of disrespect at the dinner table.
4) Daddy even said that then he let Vicky go and he dun go. I was very angry at that comment. The main purpose of having the food tasting session is to have parents from both sides and the couple to try out the dishes. He, as my FATHER, do not turn up and my arsehole sister go? I told him, then let Vicky go in my place. That comment woke him up and he never brought up the subject of asking her to go anymore.
And then on Monday night, Mummy suddenly informed me, not ask, but inform, that she will let Alvan attend the dinner on Tuesday night together. She is afraid that Alvan will feel left out that we went without him, so she told me to add one seat for him. Last minute tell me, ok never mind, I have no choice but to agree. Again, I have to please everyone but myself.
On Tuesday evening, Alvan had badminton training after school, and his training ended late, only at 7pm. Darling's family had reached PHO at 715pm. I was already on the way with Mummy from City Hall. Richard was reaching Tampines in 5 minutes to fetch Daddy and to drop off his 3 kids at our home. Dinner was arranged to start at 730pm. Alvan's school is in Bedok, how to reach home, bathe and reach PHO by 730pm? So we had no choice but to proceed without him. He refused to pick up any of our calls after Mummy called him to tell him that we have to go without him. He rejected all calls from us, refused to talk to anyone from home, ignored all of us.
I suddenly feel so bitter about everything. About my mum, about my dad, about Darling's family, about Vicky, about Alvan. Why is it that my mum is comparing Vicky's SECOND wedding to my big day? Why is it that my mum is agreeable to Vicky's idea of inviting Jason's whole family to my wedding? Why is it that my dad was so adamnant about letting Vicky attend the food tasting as well? Why is it that I feel that I am living in Vicky's shadow? Why is it that Vicky needs to invite Jason's WHOLE FAMILY to MY wedding when all she has in mind is the money of his family and only intention is to do some curry favouring to his fucking second eldest sister who is a mistress to an Indonesian businessman who must be money laundering in Singapore using that small bloody telephone business? Why is it that Darling's family is not helping out in any monetary way and yet has so much to say? Why is it that I have the feeling that Darling's mother feels that I am making Darling pay for the whole wedding and I never fork out a single cent? Why is it that I have the feeling that Darling's mother feels that I am spending his son's money and that my family has been 'exploiting' his son? Why is it that Alvan must make things to difficult for my mum and I will end up bearing the brunt of it all? Why why why?
Woo... I am finally able to update some stuffs le. Jolie went back to her hometown for the past 2 weeks and I have been covering her job. That leaves me with little time to do any updating in the office, although I will have the occassional 'lobo' time which will be spent on FB or MSN. After she came back, Sharon was not feeling well, and then it was my turn to fall sick. Went on 1.5 days MC on Tuesday and Wednesday. Then Jolie fell sick too, and went on a 3 hour time off yesterday.
Ok, reason that I am awake on a non-working Saturday morning is coz I had a dream about my wedding. Oh my god. 3 more months to go and I am feeling the jitters already?!?!?! Erm, yes lo.. I dreamt that Darling and I forgot to drive Xiaobai to the bridal studio for them to tie all the car decos, and I only remembered it on my actual day. Wahaha.. And my actual day went without any gate-crashing, I was waiting for Darling at some place for him to come and fetch me. Do I sound really desperate to get wedded? Wahaha.. I guess I do. And while waiting for him to come and fetch me, I said I need a lip balm, and then my little sister actually told me she will go and buy one, and asked me to hold the bag for her! And I got angry coz I am NOT supposed to do anything on my AD! Then, I woke up coz I needed to pee. Duhz.. Wad a weird dream.
Yesterday was our 111 months together. Super duper long hor.. Wa seh.. And means officially 3 months to the BIG DAY!!!
Over the past 2 weeks, other than buying my bling bling wedding heels, we have accomplished a few others.
Bought our Wedding Couple Bedsheet and Quilt Cover from Aussino.

I went on a John Little Expo sale with Sharon one day during lunch, and I bought 2 pairs of Charles & Keith boots, cream and black. They were going for $29.90 only! Original price is about $89.90-$119.90 I think. So is must buy must buy, cannot dun buy! Even our dear preggy mummy Sharon cannot resist and bought a pair of brown boots too! Hehe..
I saw that they had Pedro shoes on sale too. So after work I dragged Darling for a 2nd visit. Wahaha... He bought 2 pairs of Pedro leather shoes too! Both pairs are for our wedding de, a pair off-white and a pair of black leather shoes.
Then on other occassion, Darling told me that there is Timberland sale at Expo. So off we went again, this time in sought of a pair of boots for him to wear to Europe. He got another pair of shoes. Not fair!!! I wanna buy shoes also, how can I lose to him.
The Comex show at Suntec, Bren told me that she would be going down with Jimmy coz her galfren wanna buy a laptop. These kinda IT shows usually have good bargains and I thot this would be the best chance to buy the photo printer that I had wanted to get for my wedding day reception usage. So I asked her to help me check it out and help me buy if is really good bargain. I din want to go down coz it's gonna be super packed there and not forgetting the unbearable traffic and no parking lots syndrome. So I got my Canon Selphy CP760 Photo Printer, complete with 3 sets of photo paper and ink! All thanks to Bren!! :D

And the very broke me still went shopping yesterday during lunchtime. I bought my Fancl collagen drink (one box only), and many many Bodyshop items. I had only the intention to buy the Bodyshop Vitamin E eyecream coz it was going at 30% less. I ended up picking more items than my original intention, and spent almost 100 bucks at Bodyshop. I bought the White Musk shower gel, and coz there is a White Musk combo promotion, its $30+ for the shower gel and the eau de toilette, of coz I chose the combo la. And also the Vit E neck cream. Then if I top up an additional $13 to make the total $85, I will get a green tea shower gel and a beach bag free, thus I picked the Vit E night cream. Ah... Within 1.5hours I spent $160 at Parkway.
And as though the damage wasn't enough, I went back to office and bought the Fancl supplements online at a Singapore Motherhood Bulk Purchase. Yes, Singapore MOTHERHOOD. Wahaha... Spent another $60 on the supplements!
I need to eat grass and tree bark and drink dew drops for the rest of the month again.